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read between the lines
family i am amazed. today was one of those weird days where seemingly unrelated happenings seem to just tie-in with each other...days where you just cannot help but acknowledge that there is a god up there, a great Designer and Creator of some kind who is in control of the universe.i had yet another unreasonable fight with my parents. and this time i wasn't even trying to create trouble; it just happened before i knew it. we were out at danga bay cos i had to complete my shots for photojourn (and the neverending final project of which i have to keep shooting every week) and...i left my second roll of film in the car. meanwhile my first roll just ended and the car happened to be parked very far away. yeah. and next thing i know, my parents can't seem to hear a single word i am saying; it's like they're lost in their own world shaped by their own perceptions. i'm not going to get into it because it's pointless in repeating myself in exact detail over something that keeps recurring...makes for a boring read anyway. so to cut the long story short, my parents parted ways and neither wanted to talk to me; rather they were talking at me so i spotted a taxi, got into it, went to town and decided to watch charlie and the chocolate factory. had been wanting to watch it for a loongg time but i don't know what's the deal with everyone having already watched it and not wanting to watch it again. and they always ask me to watch something else with them instead...but i'm kinda tight on money since the ex-link problem last month so i figured if i do see a movie this month, i might as well watch something i want to watch, right? --ok a few spoilers on the movie here, so don't say i didn't warn you-- so i went in and saw the show, never having read the book before (i was bred more on enid blyton than on roald dahl) and was totally clueless that ... (drum roll) this was a show about family. had no idea whatsoever! i thought it was all about chocolates. (there's much more i want to say about the movie but i'll save that for another day.) it was like walking into one of those evangelistic concerts without knowing it's evangelistic. the part where willie wonka says he hates parents because they keep setting stupid rules and restrictions and then charlie tells him that parents do that sort of thing because they love you and want to protect you or something like that kinda struck a chord in me, though i still took it in with skepticism. but it was the ending that really got to me...the final closing words of the narrator: "in the end, charlie had won a chocolate factory but willie wonka had won so much more...a family." (i'm paraphrasing but it was something to that extent) i left the theatre wishing i had won a [nice] family too...when i checked my phone and found out my dad had sent me a message, the contents of which contained an apology and a reference to religion. firstly, my dad has never smsed me before other than for necessary stuff. secondly, it's been a loooong time since i've heard an apology from either my mom or my dad, like a few years...i can't even recall when the last time was. and thirdly: my dad, or my family for that matter, rarely ever mentions religion in our everyday inter-communication. true, i've noticed this year it's been increasing, especially with my mom ever since i tried getting her to open up, and even more so for this week (cos everytime she talks about him she can't help but brush on the topic of christ), but it's always been swept under the carpet when it comes to dealing with daily problems in front of the family and stuff. so i was really taken by surprise on that one. made me feel for a split second i was willie wonka (in the ending). hahaha. no prizes for guessing what i replied back. i'm pretty sure there are still more quarrels to come, but this one small yet significant step forward gives me hope that my parents and i might just actually get to have a real relationship with each other eventually (and by real i mean loving). |
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